Htl v. K,Re

Read the full judgment text of FCMC 1678/2013 on BabelCite. This Family Court judgment was delivered on 5 March 2015 before Her Honour Judge Sharon D. Melloy.

Matrimonial Causes – Variation of Access and Custody – Best Interests of the Child – High Conflict – Housing Conditions – Social Welfare Report – Defined Access vs Reasonable Access – Suspension of Staying Access – District Court – HTL v K,RE – Custody remains with mother – Access varied to day access only – Staying access suspended pending ancillary relief trial – No order as to costs

Legal issues: Variation of custody, care and control · Variation of access order · Defined or reasonable access to A · Suspension of staying access

Outcome: Father's summonses dismissed; custody remains with mother; access varied to defined day access; staying access suspended.

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Case No.FCMC 1678/2013
Court
Family Court
Date05 Mar 2015
JudgeHer Honour Judge Sharon D. Melloy
Case Document
100%Judiciary

FCMC 1678 / 2013

IN THE DISTRICT COURT OF THE

HONG KONG SPECIAL ADMINISTRATIVE REGION

MATRIMONIAL CAUSES

NUMBER 1678 OF 2013

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BETWEEN    
  HTL Petitioner
and
  K,RE Respondent

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Coram:  Her Honour Judge Sharon D. Melloy in Chambers (Not Open to Public)
Dates of Hearing:  9 – 12 December 2014
Written closings received:  7 and 17 January 2015
Date of Judgment:  5 March 2015

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J U D G M E N T
(Variation of access and custody arrangements)
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Introduction

1.This is an application by a Petitioner mother for a variation of the father’s access to the two children of the family who are now aged 13 and 8 ½ years old respectively. The father has also issued an application to vary the custody and other practical arrangements for the children. 

2.This case was originally dealt with by my sister judge – HH Judge Bebe Chu. On the 10 September 2012 she handed down a 58 page judgment on custody, care and control and access. It is a very detailed judgment which followed a 17 day trial covering all issues pertaining to the children. For the avoidance of doubt the findings made by HH Judge Chu continue to stand. The full background to the marriage and the history of the litigation is set out in that judgment and I will not repeat the same here. Reference can be made to that information as necessary.

3.However for completeness sake I should add that the mother continues to work as a primary school teacher and that the younger child, J currently attends the same primary school as his mother. The elder child, a girl A is now attending senior school. She is in Form 2 and J is in P3. They are both being educated in the local system. The mother was born in Mainland China and emigrated to Hong Kong when she was a child. She is now almost 47 years of age. The father is American and he is currently unemployed. He describes himself as a full time parent. The father says that he was previously a religious pastor – although I have yet to see evidence of that. He is a little older than the mother at 56 years of age and is said to be suffering from ill health. The father comes to the Family Court on a regular basis and for a while could be seen in the forecourt XXX. He put up a Christmas tree during the festive season and placards could also on occasion be observed with positive messages on them. The father says that he counsels people from time to time and that he has learnt a lot by coming into the open sessions in my and other family courts. The husband is not currently working and he receives maintenance pending suit from the wife in the sum of HK$4,800 per month. He does not contribute towards the upkeep of the children. He is currently living in the former matrimonial home which is said to be in a poor state of repair. In particular there are leakage problems. It is not possible, for example, for the shower to be used. On occasions the husband has received CSSA and/or a disability allowance. He was originally granted legal aid which has since been discharged.

4.Following the trial HH Judge Chu made an order vesting sole custody and care and control of the children in the mother with defined access to the father. For the avoidance of doubt she said that the mother had the power to delegate care and control of both children to her domestic helper or to either of her parents. This continues to be a point of some contention between the parties. In so far as defined access is concerned she made the following order:

(b) the father shall have access to A (the daughter) as follows:

(i) From 5 pm to 7 pm on Tuesdays and Thursdays, commencing from Tuesday 18 September 2012 and Thursday 20 September 2012;

(ii) From noon to 8 pm on Saturdays on Week 1 and 3, commencing from 15 September 2012;

(iii) Staying access from 7 pm on Saturdays to 6 pm on Sunday on Weeks 2 and 4;

(c) H shall have access to J (the son) as follows:

(i) From 5 pm to 7 pm on Tuesdays and Thursdays commencing from Tuesday 18 September 2012 and Thursday 20 September 2012;

(ii) staying access every weekend from 7 pm on Saturdays to 6 pm on Sundays, commencing from 15 September 2012;

(d) As to the children’s school holidays, W and H are to share the holidays equally, as follows:

(i) For Easter, H and W to share equally the holidays, with H having first half;

(ii) For Summer, A and J will spend alternate weeks with each parent, and H will have the first week;

(iii) For Christmas including the Gregorian New Year, H and W to share equally the holidays, and H to have first half;

(iv) For Chinese New Year, H and W to share equally the holidays, and W to have first half;

(v) W to have the children for Ching Ming Festival, Labour Day, 1 July (SAR Establishment), and National Day, and H to have the children for Buddha’s birthday, Dragon Boat Festival, Mid Autumn Festival and Chung Yeung Festival.

(e) The pick up and return place be at Tai Po Market MTR station.

5.In other words the access arrangements for A and J were different – with J having staying access every weekend from Saturday evening to Sunday evening whilst A was supposed to have staying access on weeks 2 and 4 and day access on Saturday’s otherwise. The week day access arrangements for both children were the same.

6.Following an unsuccessful FDR hearing the case was then transferred to me for the ancillary relief trial. Unfortunately progress has been very slow for a variety of different reasons including legal aid difficulties (the father does not presently have legal aid), incomplete disclosure and an application made by the father for maintenance pending suit. The ancillary relief trial has now been set down for June.

7.In the meantime the parties made the current applications in relation to the children. The mother issued a summons dated the 30 December 2013 seeking the following variation to the access arrangements:

1. the access arrangements as set out under the Court Order of Her Honour Judge Chu dated 10th September 2012 (“the Order”) be varied in the following manner:

(a) weekday access for the Children be varied namely that there would be no more Tuesday and Thursday weekly access and instead the same be replaced by weekly Friday access from 6:30 pm to 10 pm;

(b) the current weekend access for the Daughter be replaced by weekly Sunday access from 10 am to 6 pm;

(c) weekly staying access of the Son be replaced by the weekend access:

(i) week 1: staying access from 7 pm Saturday to 6 pm Sunday;

(ii) week 2: Sunday access from 10 am to 6 pm; and

(iii) the aforesaid alternates.

(d) the access time for single-day holiday shall be from 10 am to 6 pm;

(e) the pick-up time for staying access during long school holidays shall be 10 am on 1st day of the holiday and 6 pm on the last day thereof.  In the event that the access lasts for just half day, the pick up time would be 2 pm on that day; and

(f) save and except the aforesaid changes, the Order still stands.

2. costs be reserved.

8.The father’s position was initially somewhat confused. He repeatedly told the court that he wished to apply to vary the arrangements for the children but he did not do so for a considerable period of time. Eventually on the 8 August 2014 he issued a summons seeking to “change the child care application”. However it was still far from clear at that stage what he was actually seeking. Finally this was clarified in his summons dated the 21 October 2014 when he asked that an

Order to be made that – change of care, custody, control, split care:

- sole care – the son, J K – TO FATHER

- sole care – the daughter, A K – TO MOTHER

- generous time to both parents

- COURT TO USE DISCRETION FOR A K CUSTODY DEPENDENT UPON EVIDENCE PRESENTED UP TO HEARING.

9.The mother for her part reiterated that she wished the orders for custody and care and control to remain in place. She simply asked to vary the existing access arrangements.

The issues

10.Thus the present issues before the court are:

Should the original order for custody, care and control be varied?

Should the access order be varied?

Should there be an order for defined or reasonable access to A?

Should staying access be suspended?

Present situation

11.The main difficulty in this case is that the very high level of conflict between the parties has continued unabated. Since HH Judge Chu’s judgment there have been ongoing difficulties concerning in particular A’s after school activities and school trips. The father will not sign the requisite school forms if the activities clash with either his week day access or holiday access. There have been a number of very unfortunate incidences involving the children, including a protest staged outside A’s school by the father and others in relation to a school trip and a police visit in the middle of a school event. Not surprisingly perhaps A has not reacted well to this. Since the beginning of 2013 she has “voted with her feet” and has simply refused to stay over with her father. Although she does apparently see him from time to time and the father says that they are in contact regularly by text, it is seemingly very much on her own terms.

12.J continues to see his father as ordered but there are concerns about the conditions for staying access and the pressure that two week day access visits are having on the child, who as I have said is being educated in the local system.

The law in Hong Kong

13.The law has been set out in full in Judge Chu’s judgment and I will not repeat the same here save to reiterate that the right of access is generally regarded as the right of the child – i.e. the right of the child to have a relationship with his/her non caretaking parent. Further as in all matters pertaining to children we are guided by the following legislation:

Section 19 Matrimonial Proceedings and Property Ordinance, Cap 192 states that

(1) The court may make such order as it thinks fit for the custody and education of any child of the family who is under the age of 18-

(Amended 69 of 1997 s 28)

(a)in any proceedings for divorce, nullity of marriage or judicial separation, before, by or after the final decree;

14.The general principles governing such applications are set out in s 3 of the Guardianship of Minors Ordinance, Cap 13, which says that:

GENERAL PRINCIPLES

(1) In relation to the custody or upbringing of a minor, and in relation to the administration of any property belonging to or held in trust for a minor or the application of the income of any such property-

(a) in any proceedings before any court (whether or not a court as defined in section 2) the court -

(i) shall regard the best interests of the minor as the first and paramount consideration and in having such regard shall give due consideration to -

(A) the views of the minor if, having regard to the age and understanding of the minor and to the circumstances of the case, it is practicable to do so; and

(B) any material information including any report of the Director of Social Welfare available to the court at the hearing;

For the avoidance of doubt s 48 C Matrimonial Causes Ordinance, Cap 179 adds that

…… section 3 of the Guardianship of Minors Ordinance (Cap 13) (which provides that the best interests of the minor shall be the first and paramount consideration) shall apply in relation to any order for the custody care or supervision of a child which may be made under this Ordinance or the Matrimonial Proceedings and Property Ordinance (Cap 192).

The mother’s open proposals

15.The mother’s position changed somewhat as the trial progressed. In her counsel’s closing submission she asked as follows:

a) The father’s application be dismissed.

b) The recommendations made by the Social Welfare Officer in her first report dated the 6 June 2014 be adopted. This states as follows:

42. Considering the children’s developmental needs including social, emotional and intellectual development and time to nourish a positive and healthy parent-child relationship, the Investigating Officer would like to recommend that the father:

i) be granted day access to both children from 7 pm to 9 pm on Fridays; and

ii) be granted day access to both children on Sundays from 10 am to 6 pm on the First and Third weeks of every month;

As to the children’s school holidays, the parents are to share the holidays equally as stipulated in the last Court Order but the time is defined as follows:

iii) the pickup time for the first day is 10 am and return time for the last day is 6 pm; and

iv) for single day holiday, the pickup time is 10 am and return time is 6 pm.

The pickup and return place be at Tai Po Market MTR station.

c) In addition the mother asked that single public holidays be swopped as follows:

(1) The Day after Mid Autumn Festival (usually in September / October depending on the lunar calendar) with National Day (1 October);

(2) The Tuen Ng/Dragon Boat Festival (usually in June depending on the lunar calendar) with HKSAR Establishment Day (1 July); and

(3) The Buddha’s birthday (usually in May depending on the lunar calendar) with Labour Day (1 May).

d) She also reiterated that she would like to be able to ask her domestic helper or her parents and/or other third party to assist with pickups and drop offs.

e) In answer to the court’s suggestion that it might be preferable for there to be an order for reasonable access to the daughter as opposed to a defined access order that was unlikely to be complied with, the mother suggested in the alternative that there be a defined order as follows:

Day access

(a) Every Friday evening from 7 pm to 9 pm

(b) Sunday access from 10 am to noon in first and third week of every month

Single day holiday

(c) From 10 am to 2 pm

Long school holidays except summer vacation

(d) Two consecutive-day access from 10 am to 6 pm in place of the regular day access and shall take place on the 1st and 2nd day of the Son’s staying access

Summer vacation

(e) Two consecutive day-access from 10 am to 6 pm on alternate week in place of the regular day access and shall take place on Monday and Tuesday of the weeks when Joshua shall have his access

(f) Communication with the father be by text and phone calls.

The father’s open proposals

16.Following the trial the father wrote to the court asking to reopen the matter. His application was denied. I further directed that any additional proposals in relation to the child care arrangements should be included in his final submission.

17.In his closing the father said as follows:

I propose the child care arrangements for variation of child care as follows:

1.

Sole care of the daughter to the mother.

Sole care of the son to the father.

Generous access times to the mother for alternate weeks starting with week 2 of each month and then week 4 from Sunday [Saturday?] 6 pm to Sunday 6 pm.

Access times for the daughter to the father to remain unchanged.

Holiday times for the son to be followed by the equal access times with the exception of the summer and Easter holiday which shall be from shared equally between the parents; with the first half being to the father and the second half to the mother.

Holiday times for the daughter to remain unchanged with the exception of the summer holiday and Easter holiday which shall be from shared equally between the parents; with the first half being to the father and the second half to the mother.

Pick up and return place be the lobby of the matrimonial home.  (Flat X, XX Floor, Block X Tai Po)

A mutual undertaking from the other party for the “PARENTING PROVISIONS” found in my Children’s Form J bundles A&B pages 037 to 042.  The wording “joint parental care” would be amended to “split parental care”.  #1, 2, 9, 11, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24 will be deleted.

2.  Alternate plan

Sole care of the daughter to the mother.

Sole care of the son to the father.

Generous access times to the mother for the son.  Tuesday 5-7 pm, Thursday 5-7 pm Overnight access on every Saturday 7 pm to the following day Sunday 6 pm.

Access times including overnight access for the daughter to the father to remain unchanged.

Holiday times for the son/daughter to remain unchanged with the exception of the summer holiday and Easter holiday which shall be from shared equally between the parents; with the first half being to the father and the second half to the mother.

The pick up and return place be the lobby of the matrimonial home.  (Flat X, XX Floor, Block X Tai Po)

A mutual undertaking from the other party for the “PARENTING PROVISIONS” found in my Children’s Form J bundles A&B pages 037 to 042.  The wording “joint parental care” would be amended to “split parental care”.  #1, 2, 9, 11, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24 will be deleted.

The evidence

18.I must now turn to consider the issues, the law and the parties evidence as set out in the parties Form J’s and affidavits and as given orally by them during the hearing.  For the avoidance of doubt, in so far as the matters set out in this judgment differ from the evidence of the father or mother, that is because I have preferred the evidence of the other party or because I do not find the evidence given credible, or because I consider that the documents produced confirmed my findings of fact.  In addition I have had the opportunity to observe the demeanor of the parties while they gave evidence in court.

19.I have heard evidence from the father and the mother, the social welfare officer and the clinical psychologist. The father’s stance during the trial was extremely odd. He said that he had not read the Social Welfare Reports or the Clinical Psychologist Reports because they upset him and were damaging to his health. I offered him time to read the relevant documents but he refused to do so. He was warned that there might be cost consequences, but he still chose not to co operate or to participate fully in the process, notwithstanding the fact that this was partly his own application. Further he indicated that he had not read the wife’s affidavits. Thus he did not ask the experts any questions arising out of the reports.     

The Social Welfare Report

20.Recommendations made to the court in social welfare reports although not binding are generally considered to be very persuasive. In this case the social welfare officer had filed two reports. The second report was requested as she had only dealt with the issue of access in her original report, as this was filed prior to the father’s request to vary the custodial arrangements. It should be noted that the father refused to co operate with the social welfare officer with respect to the commissioning of the second report. He did not attend any interviews despite being asked to do so on several occasions. Consequently the social welfare officer did not feel able to make any further recommendations and none were given. However she did make the following points:

45. Mr K did not turn up for the enquiry and the Investigating Officer could not conduct a comprehensive investigation for the family.  As such, recommendations on the custody, care and control and access could not be made.  The Investigating Officer would thus only summarize the observations on the part of Madam H and the children.

46. Since the Court Order on 10 September 2012, both A and J are under the sole custody and care of the mother with assistance from the maternal grandparents and now the domestic helper.  The children have defined access with the father.  Despite the Court Order, the conflicts between the parties never come to a halt.  The parties have very low level of trust and cooperation.  Gathered information evidence that Madam H does manage hard to render good care and support to the children despite the warfare with Mr K over the years.  Both A and J have established regular routines and attained satisfactory performance both in behaviour and study.  Yet, the children’s emotion was somewhat greatly affected by the inflexibility of the father over the access arrangement.

47. A has entered the adolescent stage and sometimes manifests rebellious behaviors.  She enjoys school life and loves sports.  With patience and acceptance, Madam H maintains a warm and trustful relationship with A.  Madam H also makes great endeavour to coach J who is silent and reserved in front of others.  J is calm and settled with the presence of the mother and shows progress in expression. During the present social investigation, there are some impressive episodes between the mother and children as well as the siblings.  The children would turn to the mother when they have hard times.  The siblings also maintain a supportive and affectionate bonding with each other.

48. Concerning the variation of custody and care and control, Madam H and the children indicated the wish to maintain the status quo and do not want any disruption of the caring arrangement. A explicitly expressed her discontent with the father’s inflexible handling of the access and disturbances to her school life, which to great extent distanced the father-daughter relationship.  A gave full accounts of the incidents with negative feelings against the father, which are deemed reasonably proportionate to her actual experience.  Despite that, the mother sensibly encourages the daughter to maintain the relationship with the father. Both A and J hope for some adjustment of the access.  A is willing to meet the father but not in a compulsory way.  J wants to meet the father but also better manage his schoolwork simultaneously.  The present social investigation indicated that Madam H knows to attune to the needs of the children according to their developmental needs and changes.  She has the capability and sensitivity to provide the children with a caring and stable upbringing.

21.Further in her first report dated the 16 June 2014 the Social Welfare officer made the recommendation referred to in paragraph 16(b) above. It is often said that the social welfare officers are the eyes and ears of the court. This case is no exception. The observations made by the Social Welfare officer provided the court with a valuable insight into each parents home and their ability to take care of the children. In so far as the father’s home was concerned she said as follows:

The father’s home

8. Mr K moved away from the village house in Y Village in TP and moved back to the matrimonial home ( XX) in early 2013.  The matrimonial home is measured about 570 square feet and partitioned into two bedrooms.  The master bedroom was locked.  There were bikes, many big sacks, tennis rackets, tennis balls and piles of clothes in the sitting area.  The air-conditioners and some lights did not work.  Mr K could not bath at home due to water leakage problem at the bathroom.  He turned on the water tap and showed how seriousness of the problem to the Investigating Officer during the home visit. Mr K and J sometimes took bath in the public toilet with shower facility.  As the sitting area was placed with many things, the undersigned enquired about the stuff but was stopped by Mr K.  The Investigating Officer requested to enter the kitchen to see the cooking utensils and refrigerator but was also turned down. As observed, the place was not tidily kept and properly equipped.

22.This accords with what the children say – i.e. that the house is not properly maintained and that there are difficulties in relation to electricity and water supplies. J either sleeps on a mattress on the floor or on a sofa and the father does not or is unable to cook for him. In contrast the mother’s home is reported to be tidily kept and furnished. The mother shares a bedroom with J and A has a bedroom of her own. There is also a domestic helper to assist with housework etc.

The children’s views

23.In so far as access going forward is concerned A is said to have told the social welfare officer as follows, in the first report:

24. A voiced out clearly that her time was hers and not belonged to anyone.  She hoped that the parents would respect her and not force her to attend the access so that she could participate in her favorite after-school activities, like other secondary students.  During the joint interview with the father, A argued that she did not want to report to him on Tuesdays amid her activity.  She asked the father not to embarrass her in front of the teachers and schoolmates.

25. A revealed insecure feelings in the XX [former matrimonial home] as she had memories of some scenes.  She remembered that she was totally shocked when she followed the mother to return the XX but found all their belongings were thrown on the floor, like a war field.  A said she could hardly predict the father’s responses and behaviors.  She acceded to his request of reporting for fear of his further troubles to school.  A agreed to see the father on Friday and Sunday to keep her life not being so disturbed.

24.Whereas J’s position was reported to be as follows:

26. J was nearly mute when first seen individually in the playroom.  He nodded his head when the Investigating Officer asked whether he could talk and whether he did not like to talk to the undersigned.  He was assured that he did not need to talk if he wished.  Yet, J enjoyed the toys and used body gestures such as pointing to communicate with the Investigating Officer.  He expressed his favorite food and activities with the mother and sister by drawings.  He refused to draw upon touching on the access arrangement.  J was seen again in the playroom after two weeks.  J this time communicated with the Investigating Officer with spoken language.  He disclosed that he always played tennis with the father during the access though he did not very like tennis.  He would return the XX to watch English cartoons until the end of the access time.  Father would give him biscuits if he felt hungry.  He would follow the father to attend Sunday Service though he did not understand the message and found it boring.

27. J revealed that he slept on a mattress in the sitting area, where he felt dirty and uncomfortable during the staying access.  He was only arranged to sleep on bed in the bedroom before the Investigating Officer’s scheduled home visit. J sometimes did not bath during the staying access.  He sometimes followed the father to take shower in the public toilet with such facility.  He felt great when A joined the access and brought him food.  J told that the refrigerator inside was full of mould and thus the father refused to let the Investigating Officer to see the condition.  J expressed tiredness to complete the school assignments especially after the access on Tuesdays and Thursdays.  He dared not do homework during the access and believed that the father might keep the assignments and he would not have homework to teachers the next day.  J indicated that he really wants leisure time to play with the mother and sister.

28. During the joint interview with the siblings, J asked A to accompany him in the access but A refused.  A encouraged J to fight for his rights and take the chance to express his views.  J responded that he would not go to daddy’s home like A when he has reached her age.

Clinical Psychologists Report

25.The clinical psychologist also filed a report which concluded inter alia that the mother was the children’s main attachment figure. His general observations were also very similar to those of the Social welfare Officer. For example he said that

47. … The daughter explicitly indicated that she wanted less access time with no overnight access.  She wanted to have her own say about when to go or leave the father’s home by giving him a phone call.  It was normal and commonly seen for the like-aged teenagers to want more autonomy, more say and more personal space.  The son also explicitly indicated that he want less time for going to the father’s home.  On the other hand, the son appeared to be able to entertain or even take care of the father when the father was relaxed and willing to following the child’s lead, as shown in the smooth play between the father and the son.  The son also said that he felt unhappy too when seeing the unhappy relationship between parents.

In so far as access is concerned he added:

49. Considering the abovementioned information, I would opine defined access with clear structure which should help reduce the arguments between parents.  The access arrangement might need to be more specific in time.  Meanwhile, for the interest of the daughter who is in the adolescent developmental stage, wanting independence and autonomy, her view or preference about arranging access flexibly should be considered.  In addition, considering that without the sister’s company and support, it may be stressful for the son to have overnight access.  Before the parents can really establish their basic trust for better cooperation in co parenting, the court can consider gradual approach, such as starting with day access and then including overnight access in a later stage, for the son’s access arrangement.  It should be helpful for lessening the son’s stress in access and allowing the parents to enhance trust in co parenting gradually in the process.

26.The difficulty with that recommendation of course is that it fails to recognise the fact that J is currently staying over with his father every weekend and for half of the school holidays.

The character of the parties

The father

27.Concerns had been expressed by the mother with respect to the father’s mental health. During the trial her counsel complained of intimidating behaviour by the father. She said that the father would stare at both her and her client and that he would “sing” at them, whilst outside court or when sitting in the glass fronted conference room. The father in reply said that there was no law against singing. The mother also complained about other incidences in her written evidence. Having seen the father in the witness box and generally I accept that his behaviour can be unnerving. When I queried the fact that he appeared to be camping out in the forecourt he said that he had been given permission to be there by the Police. No evidence was ever produced in support of that statement. I should add that the tent has since been removed. Notwithstanding that I accept that the father’s behaviour is a cause for some concern.

The mother

28.The mother although clearly under considerable stress presented well. 

Should the original order for custody, care and control be varied?

29.It does not seem to me that it would be appropriate to vary the order for custody and care and control. As set out in the social welfare reports the children are well taken care of by their mother – with whom they have an attached and bonded relationship. Both children are in the local education system and the mother is able to assist each of them – but particularly J with their homework. The father is unable to assist given that he does not speak Cantonese. The mother is also able to provide for them financially which again the father is unable to do given that he is currently relying on the mother for financial support. She is also assisted by both her domestic helper and her family in taking care of the children. Both children appear to be close to her.

30.In contrast the father appears at best to have a somewhat strained relationship with both children, although this is not accepted by him. A in particular does not choose to spend much time with her father – although this is disputed. J appears to struggle – especially during the week day access times when homework is a priority. There have been issues with respect to homework in the past. J has a lot of homework each day and he does not do his homework when he is with his father – which causes additional stress and difficulties.  There are also significant issues with respect to the father’s present housing situation. The fact that the father was completely uncooperative with the social worker second time around is also a matter of some considerable concern. I have also noted that that she was not allowed access to the kitchen during the first home visit.

31.The father is proposing that there should be a split order with custody of A to the mother and custody of J to him. For the avoidance of doubt I do not think it would be appropriate in the circumstances to split the children or to vary the original order for custody and care and control.  The children shall continue to reside with their mother and she shall continue to be the sole custodial parent.   

Should the access order be varied?

Should there be an order for defined or reasonable access to A?

32.I expressed concern during the hearing given that the mother was initially seeking an order that she knew the daughter A was unlikely to comply with. The father in turn agreed that there should simply be an order for “reasonable” access and that A should be able to see him as and when she wished. The mother was very opposed to this. In her counsel’s closing she summarizes her position thus:

28. The Mother agreed that the Children’s views should be respected and should form one of the considerations in redesigning the access arrangement.  For instance, the Mother had heard the Daughter suggesting a flexible mode of “reasonable access”, as the Daughter wanted to decide when and how frequent to see her Father.  However, having considered the past conflicts between the Father and the Daughter, and the very different judgment they have towards “what is reasonable”, the Mother considers that it will only be disastrous for both the Father and the Daughter if the future access is left “flexible” and up to the Daughter to decide when to see her Father.  For instance, if the Daughter decides that seeing her Father once a month is “reasonable access”, and her Father disagrees, insisting that seeing her at least once a week is reasonable, then the Father will certainly “look for” the Daughter by paying many visits to her school, and will probably call the police again to coerce the school to let him see the Daughter, and history will repeat.  To solve such conflicts, the parties will inevitably return to the Court and ask the Court to define whose version of “reasonable” is reasonable.  The Mother therefore respectfully urges the Court to consider the above and her deep concern over an undefined access arrangement.

29. The Father’s allegation that the Daughter longs to see more of him is not affected by any defined arrangement.  The Daughter can always see more of her Father in addition to those defined time.  She is a teenager with great extent of freedom.  There cannot be any serious suggestion that the Mother can stop the Daughter to see her Father more often.

33.I can understand the mother’s worries in this respect – but I remain concerned about making an order that is unlikely to be complied with. However I am comforted by the fact that A did apparently confirm with the Social Welfare Officer that she would be willing to see the father on Fridays and Sundays. In such circumstances I am persuaded that it would be more appropriate for there to be an order for defined access to A as opposed to an order for reasonable access.  

Should staying access be suspended?

34.The mother initially asked inter alia that the weekend access for J be varied so that he had staying access on alternate Saturdays instead of every week. Further that on the alternate weekends that J had day time access with his father on Sundays. She also asked that A have access to her father each Sunday. The mother did not propose any substantive change to the staying access during the school holidays. Following receipt of the first Social Welfare Report she effectively asked that staying access during term time be replaced by day time access on alternate Sundays for both children from 10 am to 6 pm. This was in line with the recommendations made by the Social Welfare Officer. Again she did not propose any substantive changes to the arrangements during the school holidays. This was also in line with the recommendations made. In other words neither the mother nor the Social Welfare officer proposed that staying access be suspended generally. Although the Social Welfare Officer clearly identified some problems with the father’s present care arrangements – particularly in so far as housing and food was concerned, it is not clear why she proposed that staying access should be dispensed with during term time but not during the school holidays. Logically it should follow that if there were difficulties with the care presently provided by the father to the extent that overnight access during term time was not recommended, then the same could be said for staying access for prolonged periods over the school holidays. 

35.The other difficulty is that the Clinical Psychologist has recommended phasing in staying access – when staying access is already taking place and is on the face of it problematic.

36.I have given this matter considerable thought. Should staying access be suspended until such time as the father’s living conditions have improved? To an extent the father might argue, and with some justification it seems to me, that is also dependent on the outcome of the ancillary relief trial and any decision that I may make in relation to the division of the assets (and in particular any orders that might be made in relation to the former matrimonial home). The other main issue relates to the earning capacity of the father and whether or not he is capable of earning his own living and contributing towards the upkeep of the children. Notwithstanding that however the father should nevertheless be able to improve his present living conditions – so that, for example, the apartment is neat and tidy and extraneous items are thrown away. It should also be dusted etc. He should also ensure that the children eat nutritional meals when they are in his care. 

37.In such circumstances I have decided to suspend all staying access until after the ancillary relief trial whereupon the situation may be reviewed further. This will also be subject to a further Social Welfare Report. For the avoidance of doubt I will expect the father to co operate fully with the Social Welfare Officer in the commission of that report.  

38.In such circumstances I have decided to make an order which is slightly different to the recommendations made by the Social Welfare Officer, but closer to the order originally sought by the mother.  I am concerned that the children should be able to see their father at least twice a week. Thus I will replace J’s Tuesday and Thursday evening access times with Friday evening access from 6:30 pm – 10:00 pm. A shall also see her father on Friday evenings at the same time. This is longer than the two hours recommended by the Social Welfare Officer – which seems very limited in the circumstances, but is as originally requested by the mother. In addition I will order that both A and J see their father every Sunday from 10:00 am – 6:00 pm. The mother originally suggested weekly access – which again seems more appropriate to access every alternate weekend. As indicated above I have suspended all staying access for the time being. Thus there will be no staying access during the school holidays. Instead there will be day time access during the father’s share of the school holidays from 10 am – 6 pm. I will also swop the public holiday access as requested by the mother. 

Communication going forward

39.The parties find it virtually impossible to communicate at any level. The father suggested that the mother communicate with him by registered post. This is not really a sensible or realistic proposal. If a child is ill and cannot attend access – it does not make sense to send a registered letter. The father can clearly send text messages because he says that he communicates with A by text. I would suggest therefore that the parties communicate by text and only as absolutely necessary going forward.

Pickups and drop offs

40.For the avoidance of doubt it is directed – and this will be included in the order, that both the mother’s domestic helper and the maternal grandparents or other third parties may assist with pickups and drop offs.

School trips and activities

41.Further I will also direct that in the absence of agreement between the parties the signature of the mother only will be sufficient for either child to attend a school trip or/or other school activity. This is in keeping with the mother having sole custody of both children.

Costs

42.The general rule of thumb is that in children’s cases there should be no order as to costs. In this case I warned the father that there may be cost consequences given his rather novel approach to the trial. Notwithstanding that I have nevertheless decided in the first instance to make an order nisi that there be no order as to costs. If the mother wishes to challenge that then she should file the requisite summons supported by an affidavit.

Order

43.I will therefore make an order as follows:

1) The father’s summonses dated the 8 August and 21 October 2014 shall be dismissed;

2) Orders 2 and 3 on access as contained in the court order dated the 10 September 2012 in suit number FCMC 11418/2011 and as confirmed in the court order dated the 7 October 2013 in suit number FCMC 1678/2013 shall be varied in that the Respondent shall have defined access to the two children of the family each Friday from 6:30 pm – 10 pm commencing on the 6 March 2015 and day access each Sunday from 10 am – 6:00 pm commencing on the 8 March 2015.

3) Order 4 (i) – (iv) on holiday access as contained in the court order dated the 10 September 2012 in suit number FCMC 11418/2011 and as confirmed in the court order dated the 7 October 2013 in suit number FCMC 1678/2013 shall remain unchanged save that the father shall have access on a daily basis from 10 am until 6 pm on each day of his share of the school holidays. All staying access shall be suspended until further order. For the avoidance of doubt the order dated the 12 August 2014 in suit number FCMC 1678/2013 shall also be varied accordingly.

4) Order 4 (v) on single public holiday access as contained in the court order dated the 10 September 2012 in suit number FCMC 11418/2011 and as confirmed in the court order dated the 7 October 2013 in suit number FCMC 1678/2013 shall be varied in that the Petitioner shall have the children for Mid Autumn festival, Ching Ming, Dragon Boat festival and Buddha’s birthday and the Respondent shall have the children for National Day (1 October), Labour Day (1 May), and Chung Yeung Festival and HKSAR Establishment day (1 July). The father shall have access from 10 am until 6:00 pm. For the avoidance of doubt the order dated the 12 August 2014 in suit number FCMC 1678/2013 shall also be varied accordingly.

5) It is directed that the mother’s domestic helper and/or her family members and/or other third parties may assist her with pickups and drop offs and that communication between the parties shall be by text.

6) Further it is directed that in the absence of agreement between the parties the signature of the mother only will be sufficient in order for either child to attend a school trip and/or other school activity.

7) There shall be an order nisi to be made absolute in 14 days time that there be no order as to costs.

8) Further directions shall be given at the end of the ancillary relief trial in relation to staying access inter alia as set out in paragraph 37 above.    

( Sharon D MELLOY )
District Judge

Ms Josephine Tjia instructed by Tang, Lai & Leung for the Petitioner

The Respondent appeared in person